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boy, friend, frienship, girlfriend, hope, improve, love, powerful, relationships, role reversal
So a couple years ago I made a friend who was very muchly concerned with my relationship with the boy. By the end of it, he would ask “why are you even with him?!” and I would have answers such as “well, maybe it’ll get better” or “because I love him” and ladida. I would tell him that it wasn’t ALL that bad, and that there were some awesome moments (which there were!) and would continue to stay with the boy, until last year that is.
ANYWAYS, now my friend is kinda where I was, in that he has a girlfriend who is just…not right for him let’s say. In that I don’t like the way she treats him, and although I know that he just tells me the problems and doubts and frustrations within their relationship, it’s amazing how our roles have been reversed.
I think the most interesting part though, is that before I was like “no, I get it, if you were telling me all about the boy, I’d tell you to leave him too” and he’s saying the same thing to me about his girlfriend.
I guess hope is a pretty powerful thing. I hoped that the boy would eventually come to whatever (not going to complain on this one =P) and my friend hopes that his girlfriend will eventually progress to a point where the problems aren’t there. AND! Because of this hope, I stayed in that relationship a lot longer than most people probably would have liked (but I don’t regret staying that long!) and I know his other friends don’t approve of his relationship, and whatnot. It’s interesting…
and that’s the end of my passing thoughts =)