Wasted Love. How often do we say “well that person can do better” or “there’s no hope for him/her” or even “he/she’ll never get a gf/bf” ? In a way implying that love would be wasted on them, or that the love they have is a waste when “spent” on that person.
I found myself thinking this a while back. And then I caught myself. Who am I to judge whether or not someone is “worthy” of love? Aren’t we all deserving of love? Weren’t we created for it? We were created to love, adore and worship the Almighty God. We are supposed to represent Him here on earth, to the best of our ability.
Yet when my friend’s girlfriend dumped him only to sleep with her ex 4 days later and then run back to him, my first thought was along the lines of “____ deserves so much better” “she’s not good enough for him” peppered with mild swear words going through my head as I saw the intense pain that she had caused him.
And then, I stopped.
How many times have I done worse to God, and not even thought about how much I may be hurting Him? How much His heart breaks when he sees me run back to the useless “exes” of my life?
Who am I to say that she doesn’t deserve my friend’s love? Who am I to judge her in all her pain? As she acts out of her pain and hurt from past relationships, why should I only add to the condemnation that she already feels? Why should I add my voice to the sea of voices she probably already hears in her head screaming “failure” “unworthy” and “broken” ? That sea of voices telling her that no one will love her…not Christ, not my friend, nor the Christians in her fellowship…
Christ came to redeem all of us, to ransom all of us, to die for all of us. Christ came because he loved all of us. He CHOSE to die for us, he CHOSE to suffer for us and he would choose to do it again.
There is no such thing as wasted love.